Marriage Fight Club @ The Jar Office
Friday nights from 6:30-8:30
Dinner and childcare provided
Why is it called fight club?
The Bible tells us that we are all in a battle. We have a very real enemy and it is NOT our spouse! In fact, when we fight against our spouse it's like we're fighting against ourselves. The goal of Fight Club is to recognize that a married couple is a team and the battle must be fought together.
Ephesians 6:12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
Ephesians 6:12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
Is Fight Club just for marriages that are in trouble?
No! All marriages are welcome to join. Marriage is hard. Every marriage has ups and downs and no matter where you are right now Fight Club is for you. Every couple that attended Fight Club last January-May reported improvement in their marriage whether they started at "considering divorce" or closer to already having their "dream marriage".
Is this like counseling? Do we have to talk about our personal problems with the group?
Nope and nope. We actually want to stay as far away from discussing the specifics of your marital issues as possible. We don't really talk about specific behavior and we certainly don't single anyone out or team up on anyone. We find it more effective to focus on our individual heart condition and the beliefs that drive our behavior. Most of our cultural influence is in direct opposition to the love that the Bible calls us to demonstrate in our relationships. And most attempts at "fixing" our problems rely on talking about the problem and trying to change the other person. We focus on obeying scriptures like these instead:
Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Philippians 4:8 Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Philippians 4:8 Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
What do we actually DO at Fight Club? Do we just listen to someone talk?
Each week is a little bit different, but in general the night is broken up in 3 parts. Dinner, a short lesson, and some kind of guided activity. These activities can be serious or silly. They may be based in team building, increasing attachment, neuroscience research, competition with other couples, just generating laughter, or learning more about each other and yourself to understand certain tendencies within your relationship or how to be better at recognizing and meeting your spouse's needs.
What if my spouse can't come? Can I come by myself?
You may attend alone, but there is a definite advantage to having both spouses present. There will be activities that are done as couples, but they will be done last so that anyone attending by themselves can just leave early.
Can we just come whenever we want or do we have to attend regularly to be in the group?
That's really up to you, but attending regularly will most definitely produce the best results. Look at it this way, the impact of stopping by the gym every once in a while versus the impact of going regularly is very different. Working on your marriage health is the same way. You'll get out what you put in.
What did other people think of fight club?
"It has taught me different ways to solve problems that we may encounter. Old habits die hard, but attending fight club has given us the tools to have a better marriage!"
"I like the laid back atmosphere and how comfortable we all are with being transparent. This has really opened my eyes a lot!!"
"I'm not sure I would have made it this far without this group. It may not always feel like it has "helped" my marriage but it has definitely made me more aware of MY actions in my marriage."
"Growing together in a partnership and with friends of mutual understanding and values and goals helps to build that solid Christian foundation that marriage is built on."
"I like the laid back atmosphere and how comfortable we all are with being transparent. This has really opened my eyes a lot!!"
"I'm not sure I would have made it this far without this group. It may not always feel like it has "helped" my marriage but it has definitely made me more aware of MY actions in my marriage."
"Growing together in a partnership and with friends of mutual understanding and values and goals helps to build that solid Christian foundation that marriage is built on."
Still have questions? Send them to [email protected] and we'll be glad to answer them!
Want to join us and fight for your marriage to be the best it can be? Sign up here!
Want to join us and fight for your marriage to be the best it can be? Sign up here!